Bondage is a sensual way of playing with power dynamics by assuming control – or surrendering it. 

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Bondage can help both people get out of their heads and step into the energy of D/s (Dominance and submission). Taking the lead and/or surrendering control is one of the most common expressions of kink, and bondage is one example of how to explore these dynamics. 

When we play with sensory deprivation, anticipation and restraint, it increases our awareness of sensation. This is because of the enhanced adrenaline, excitement and activation within our nervous system.

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Many people enjoy the feeling of silk or rope against their skin, and being able to tense or move against it.  Exploring these bodily sensations can be very arousing.

Being tied up or blindfolded can get you out of your head and into your body. 

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Sensory deprivation is the secret, as losing one or more senses amplifies the rest. Without being able to see or move, we feel more. Every touch gets more intense, so it’s hard to be distracted by your thoughts when you’re focused on what you’re feeling!

The most important part of bondage is consent and safety. It requires a lot of communication between you and your partner to figure out what is okay, what isn’t, and what you both want to try next.

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This is through clear negotiations, safe words, non-verbal signs like hand squeezing, check-ins, voicing your needs, and mindful aftercare.

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This builds trust, which can be incredible for deepening your connection with each other.

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For a more in depth guide, check out this guide to kink and power play.

Perhaps a surprising reason why people do bondage is that it can be an art form!

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Have you ever heard of Shibari? It’s a practice of rope bondage from Japan, which involves tying intricate knots for both aesthetics and sensual pleasure. It also helps with emotional regulation and somatic healing.

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And the good news is, it’s not exclusive. You could take Shibari classes with your partner as a potential date idea! Here in Sydney, we have a number of Shibari schools, including Shibari Sydney and Studio Kink.

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Our Black Satin Blindfolds & Ties are a simple, sensual way to explore new kinds of pleasure. The silky-smooth satin feels luxurious against your skin, while the ties can be used as a blindfold or for light restraint. They are perfect for heightening sensations, experimenting with power play, and bringing a little novelty into the bedroom.

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Here are eight ways to explore them.

This one’s a no-brainer. It’s the first thing that comes to mind when you hear the word ‘tie.’

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So if you’re not into the idea of handcuffs, our satin ties are a more sensual place to start. They’re silky smooth and feel luxurious around your wrists, so you can explore the experience of being tied up (or the tying) in a more sensual experience. 

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Use one of them to create handcuffs or tie one on each wrist. Don’t forget your safe words!

These satin ties also work as a blindfold.

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By removing our sense of sight, we become more sensitive to what we feel, taste, hear, and smell. 

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While your partner is blindfolded, touch them, tease them with Tease (my ostrich feather sensation tool), drip warm massage oil from my Melt massage candle onto them and watch them melt with desire. 

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Get our ‘Sensation Box’ for everything you need for the perfect sensation play date night.

Power play in the bedroom can be a huge turn on; either stepping into a position of more control, or consensually surrendering it.

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 When one person’s hands are tied together and/or they have had their eye sight removed, they feel all but defenseless to their partner, plunging them into an even more submissive/dominant headspace.

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This is called sensory deprivation, and can be intensified with over ear headphones.

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Don’t forget your safe words!

Blindfolds and satin ties take role play that extra mile. When you can’t see, it’s easier to immerse yourself into another place, or even another persona. But when you can’t move? It can be a way of exploring a consensual non-consent experience.

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Otherwise, there’s about a million scenarios you could get into, so get creative! Use these ties to help bring fantasies to life safely.

Food play is any erotic encounter where food joins the fun. It can range from anywhere from slow and sensual to fabulously messy, and doesn’t have to involve whipped cream!

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With blindfolds on, try feeding your partner with your hands, fingers, or even your lips. Not being able to see intensifies what you feel and taste, amplifying pleasure.

Body mapping is a mindfulness-based activity meant to find out what (and where) feels good for you or your partner. Explore and discover new erogenous zones while wearing our blindfolds to increase your sensitivity to touch.

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After all, sensory-deprivation is key here. 

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The less you see, the more you feel.

On that note, our blindfolds can also take mindful masturbation to another level. 

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This activity is all about noticing and finding new ways of building up pleasure, and staying present in your body. Blindfolds work by removing distractions, helping you focus on what feels good and what doesn’t, letting you reconnect with your body.

When you and your partner are blindfolded, neither of you can see each other’s bodies. You don’t have to worry about what you look like, which can help with body image concerns and help you stay present.

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If this is something you relate to, our blindfolds could be the answer!

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These blogs are not a replacement for great sex education - for more support please book in a session with one of our trained BDSM educators and sexologists.